Give Yourself the Present of Being Present

Have you noticed how GOOD you have it? How ABUNDANT your life really is?

Or are you stressing about holiday hutsle and bustle? I remember plenty of years where I MISSED the holiday, the season and everything that was really great and precious because I was focused on everything I thought I didn’t have like:

1. Not having enough money to buy the holiday presents I wanted to buy.

2. Not having friends to celebrate the holidays with.

3. Not having my family members treat me the way I’d like.

4. Not having the funds to take a fabulous vacation.

5. Not having a passionate romance in my life.

This year my focus is much different. And I’ve seen the amazing difference even a year can make. This year I choose to focus on what I DO have:

1. A healthy body that lovingly moves me through every hour of each day.

2. A love relationship with God that that continues to amaze and dazzle me.

3. An opportunity to create all things new in this glorious New Year.

4. A sweet and smokey smell filling my glowing fireplace.

5. The luxury of taking time to reflect on what is most meaningful to me.

6. The ability to let go of all people, thoughts and things that are meant to move on.

As a result of focusing on what I do have, everything that I haven’t had in the past has either been brought to me or I have been brought to peace with it.

It’s a beautiful place to be.

I hope and pray you give yourself the gift of being present with what is. Enjoy ALL that you do have and remember you have what it takes to live a legendary life!

© 2007 Gina Ratliffe

Two Tips to Overcome Your Fear of Presenting

Many will shy away from attending a business networking event because they are concerned about public speaking and making a presentation. Here are two tips to help take away the worry and support you through your first experiences.

Talking on a one to one basis is so different to public speaking and if you do get nervous it is perfectly natural to feel this way. Have you ever made a presentation? If you have and you’re like me then you’ve probably suffered from the same symptoms.

Fast heartbeat
Sweaty palms
Feeling nauseous
Audience blindness

When I first started attending business networking events I used to feel exactly the same when it came to presenting my sixty seconds (or elevator pitch as some call it). The vast majority of my business is gained through networking so it’s an essential part of my daily routine. Fortunately I’ve managed to overcome my fear of presenting with these two great business networking tips.

Prepare your pitch, you may only have sixty seconds or two minutes and believe me, that isn’t long so you need be ready. Run it through so that you know exactly how long it lasts. The worst thing you can do is run over and divert from your script as all you’ll do is succeed in talking about nothing in particular and bore the pants off most of your audience.

From a content point of view, consider what it is that you want to get across, what is that unique point? Think also about who it is that you are trying to get in touch with, remember that you’re not selling to your audience, you are trying to get them to understand your products and services so that they can recommend them to others and refer those potential clients back to you.

For the actual presentation, the fact that you have timed it and run through it will have not done any harm. No doubts you’re still going to be nervous and all the symptoms above will still be there but here’s a great tip for how to keep it in control.

It’s quite simple but it takes a little practice. Firstly let me ask you a question. What’s the difference between a presentation and a conversation? It’s just the number of people.

When we hold a conversation with one or two people we know that we are in close proximity because we can see other faces and make eye contact. When making a presentation, we get nervous because there are a lot of people so if we can make ourselves think that we only holding a conversation then the nerves will disappear.

The trick is to make eye contact with one person for 5 seconds, then another and another. Really pick people out and talk to them as though they are individuals. When you talk to an audience, you’re eyes skip around and you see nothing and so get nervous. If you change the eye contact, look out for the step change in your level of nervousness.

Practice focusing on one person at a time and make sure that you count to five in your head before moving onto the next person. Where to start? I always start by talking to the prettiest face in the audience and work from there. If there’s someone that you know in the audience, try talking to them first and it will put you at ease.

These two tips have revolutionised my performance and success rate at business networking events, practice them and I hope that they work for you too.

Steps on Being Joyful in the Present Moment

Below are the three direct steps on how to find more joy in the present moment. Keep in mind that true joy can only come from within. As you see that joy is only found from within, you can begin to see why joy is a lot easier to find in the present moment awareness.

Step 1

Develop gratitude. To get into this state of mind, pick something right now that you haven’t really noticed before. Focus your attention on that one thing. As you begin to focus your attention on that one thing, feel a deep sense of wonder and awe. Be grateful for it being there. That feeling alone will give you momentum.

Step 2

You don’t need any reason to be happy. Just because you see many people striving for something to be happy about, doesn’t mean you have to. Realize this truth, there is no validation need for you to be happy. You can choose to be happy for no reason at all, this is a big secret that many have a hard time grasping, but if you understand the essence of it, you are well on your way.

Step 3

Send happiness to others now. The moment you send this out to others is the exact moment you realize, that what you give out is what you get back. Whatever you feel is lacking, in this case happiness, send it to someone. Make someone laugh or send happy thoughts to someone. This will put you in the position you choose.